What is Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence is an unfortunate part of daily living which violates women’s rights and must not be tolerated in modern society but before there is any hope of stopping the behavior it must be first understood. At Bedford & Associates our Lawyers have vast experience in dealing with both offenders and victims of domestic violence.
Meaning of domestic violence
Domestic violence means behavior by a person (the first person) towards another person (the second person) with whom the first person is in a relevant relationship.
Such behaviour dose not necessarily need to be physically or sexually abusive it includes emotionally or psychologically, threatening or dominating and even economically abusive or any other unwanted behavior that makes a person subservient to another person.
Domestic violence can include:
- Causing personal injury to a person or threatening to do so
- Coercing a person to engage in sexual activity or attempting to do so;
- Damaging a person’s property or threatening to do so;
- Depriving a person of the person’s liberty or threatening to do so;
- Threatening a person with the death or injury of the person, a child of the person, or someone else;
- Threatening to commit suicide or self-harm so as to torment, intimidate or frighten the person to whom the behavior is directed;Causing or threatening to cause the death of, or injury to, an animal, whether or not the animal belongs to the person to whom the behaviour is directed, so as to control, dominate or coerce the person;
- Unauthorized surveillance of a person;
- Unlawfully stalking a person.
- Monitoring a person’s account with a social networking internet site
- Using a GPS device to track a person’s movements
- Checking the recorded history in a person’s GPS device
(Source Section 8 DOMESTIC AND FAMILY VIOLENCE PROTECTION ACT 2012)
Why do People Live in a Domestic violent relationship
Domestic violence is much more that a husband beating up on his wife even a parent constantly checking their child’s Facebook account may amount to domestic violence.
It is very common for people to think that the victim whether it be male or female should leave the relationship. In a lot of cases the victim and the aggressor have become co-dependent on each other and between the violent outbursts there can be genuine love and support for each other.
The Cycle of Violence
When a couple first get together it is usually utopia they do everything together and for each other then comes the pressures of life, children to feed, bills to pay work pressures unemployment and the tension starts to build.
At this point the victim is living on the edge they feel everything they do is not good enough and they are constantly trying to please the other without success. At this point the aggressor becomes dominant blaming the victim for his or her stress and the next stage is the violence commences. It may be pushing or a slap, stopping them seeing family and friends or simply putting the household money through a poker machine.
The next step is remorse is genuinely sorry for his behaviour and telling the victim/s it will never happen again. The victim then believes that they were partly responsible for the blowout so all is forgiven. The Aggressor becomes more attentive to the victim and once again life is like paradise until the stresses start again and the cycle continues.
The cycle can take months to complete in the beginning but the longer the Domestic violence lasts the quicker the cycle and the more intense the blowout.
Where do we go for help?
Domestic violence is an offence so if you are a victim you have every right to report the matter to the Police on the first occasion and they will believe you.
If you are the aggressor then as the aggression is emotionally charged your first port of call ought to be your family doctor who will no doubt give you a referral to a good counsellor. Many people have served time in prison for Domestic Violence so it pays to get help while you are free and it just may save your relationship.
When it won’t stop
If you cannot stop the violence you will need to apply to the Court for a Domestic Violence Protection Order. For assistance in getting an order you can either report the violence to the police and they will take the order out on your behalf or if you prefer we can do the paperwork for you and represent you at court.
What if I charged with Domestic Violence or have a protection order against me
You will need to make an appointment with one of our lawyers and we will work out your options.
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